Tuesday, May 22, 2007
I Get it Now...
My mother-in-law always says how annoyed it made her when people would look at her brood of three boys and make the comments like, "Tried for the girl, huh?" She always said that wasn't the case... but I couldn't help having a bit of doubt about that. What mother wouldn't long for a little girl?
When we first started this whole baby thing back in 2003, I definitely had a preference. I wanted my first to be a girl more than anything. Then we found out he was a boy, and I slowly got used to the idea... then he was BORN and I couldn't even imagine him having been a girl.
When I got pregnant again, I pretty much knew I was having a boy from the start. (though people kept trying to tell me otherwise) When we went to the ultrasound, and she pointed out the boy parts (which I'm getting very good at spotting), I just started laughing. TWO boys... who would have ever thought I'd have TWO boys?! (besides my inlaws) That's when we decided to keep it a surprise. (which was really fun, just by the way)
I won't lie, there was a tiny part of me that was hoping for the little girl this time (at one point, I thought we saw the infamous "three lines" on the screen, but it turned out to be a kidney or something) ;) But once she told us we were having our Simon, I was so excited. Brothers! And they'd be close in age... I couldn't have planned it better! Plus I liked our boy name more than our girl name. ;)
I could never blog about this back when it was going on, for obvious reasons... but I wanted to: One of the best moments after we found out we were having another boy was getting Ben's baby clothes down from the attic. I washed them all and then, as I carefully folded and hung them up one by one, I remembered my first little guy wearing each gown, pair of pajamas and teeny tiny outfit and I cried. For awhile, I was making Tom look at each one and reminisce with me, but he quickly got bored...you know, Y-chromosome defect and all. (and to whoever I stole that term from, thanks!)
So now that I'm carting two boys around town, I'm constantly getting the question, "Soooo... you gonna try for the girl?"
Well, I'm going to try for three children (you'll remember it took us awhile to get Simon!), because that's what I've always wanted. If I "get the girl" next time, I'll be ecstatic. I still say it's natural for a mother to want a daughter. But I'd also LOVE to have three boys; and if that's what I end up with, I'm not going to spend the rest of my life wondering about the daughter I never had.
So now I'm finding myself annoyed at answering this presumptuous question over and over. We'll get whatever we're supposed to have. :) And if that's three boys? Well, then these little clothes are going to get a lot of milage, aren't they? ;)
When we first started this whole baby thing back in 2003, I definitely had a preference. I wanted my first to be a girl more than anything. Then we found out he was a boy, and I slowly got used to the idea... then he was BORN and I couldn't even imagine him having been a girl.
When I got pregnant again, I pretty much knew I was having a boy from the start. (though people kept trying to tell me otherwise) When we went to the ultrasound, and she pointed out the boy parts (which I'm getting very good at spotting), I just started laughing. TWO boys... who would have ever thought I'd have TWO boys?! (besides my inlaws) That's when we decided to keep it a surprise. (which was really fun, just by the way)
I won't lie, there was a tiny part of me that was hoping for the little girl this time (at one point, I thought we saw the infamous "three lines" on the screen, but it turned out to be a kidney or something) ;) But once she told us we were having our Simon, I was so excited. Brothers! And they'd be close in age... I couldn't have planned it better! Plus I liked our boy name more than our girl name. ;)
I could never blog about this back when it was going on, for obvious reasons... but I wanted to: One of the best moments after we found out we were having another boy was getting Ben's baby clothes down from the attic. I washed them all and then, as I carefully folded and hung them up one by one, I remembered my first little guy wearing each gown, pair of pajamas and teeny tiny outfit and I cried. For awhile, I was making Tom look at each one and reminisce with me, but he quickly got bored...you know, Y-chromosome defect and all. (and to whoever I stole that term from, thanks!)
So now that I'm carting two boys around town, I'm constantly getting the question, "Soooo... you gonna try for the girl?"
Well, I'm going to try for three children (you'll remember it took us awhile to get Simon!), because that's what I've always wanted. If I "get the girl" next time, I'll be ecstatic. I still say it's natural for a mother to want a daughter. But I'd also LOVE to have three boys; and if that's what I end up with, I'm not going to spend the rest of my life wondering about the daughter I never had.
So now I'm finding myself annoyed at answering this presumptuous question over and over. We'll get whatever we're supposed to have. :) And if that's three boys? Well, then these little clothes are going to get a lot of milage, aren't they? ;)
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goodness...what a terrible question! i haven't ever had that question or statement. i just get the statment 'whoa, you have your hand full eh?'
i wanted a boy first and i got that, then i would have liked a girl, but was pretty certain it was going to be another boy...so when noah was born, there was a small second of dissapointment, then tremendous joy. especially now that micah and noah are rolling around the floor together and giggling together =)
i wanted a boy first and i got that, then i would have liked a girl, but was pretty certain it was going to be another boy...so when noah was born, there was a small second of dissapointment, then tremendous joy. especially now that micah and noah are rolling around the floor together and giggling together =)
Thats sweet. I was sorry my boy couldn't wear more of his big sis's clothes - they were so cute. At least in the beginning they were pretty gender neutral.
People just get diarrhea of the mouth about family size, type, gender balance, etc. -- it's so annoying! After I had one of each, people kept asking me if I was "done." After a problem pregnancy, I'd have been done if I'd given birth to Stuart Little!
And if Three is a boy too, Uncle Marc and I will spoil Simon rotten. ;)
You'll also get a lot of mileage out of that birth order book too! :)
You'll also get a lot of mileage out of that birth order book too! :)
This made me all teary because I could have written almost every word myself. I love having two boys. And yes, I do love to dress the baby in his big brother's old cltohes and see how differently they wear the same outfit. I also have an affinity for matching/coordinating outfits. Not all the time, but sometimes. Gymboree is good for coordinating outfits. ; )
i can totally relate. . .i have 3 girls and then a boy who is now 3. . .and we still get oh you got your boy remarks all the time. . .and no we just got our 4th child which is what we wanted. . .we would have been thrilled with a 4th girl. . .and our family would have been complete. . .but yes people always have something to say.
I can't even tell you how many people have asked me the same question. My response is usually something like "Aren't two boys ENOUGH FOR YOU PEOPLE?" If we did decide to have a third, we'd be happy with whatever gender we got... but I would secretly wish for another boy! I love my two little guys so much, and I LOVE being the only girl in the house. ;)
I loved having my two boys first. I always wanted that. But then when I *finally* convinced him to have a 3rd (of course after we got rid of almost all of the baby stuff), I hoped with all my heart for a girl (remember, mine are spread out some).
I think that if Ry would have been a boy it would have taken me sometime to get used to. And then time to convince G to have a 4th. Thank goodness that didn't happen!
But even though she is a girl, she is quite the Tomboy (in a princess dress!) so I guess a boy wouldn't of been bad either (she loves sports!).
I think that if Ry would have been a boy it would have taken me sometime to get used to. And then time to convince G to have a 4th. Thank goodness that didn't happen!
But even though she is a girl, she is quite the Tomboy (in a princess dress!) so I guess a boy wouldn't of been bad either (she loves sports!).
I get... "So you are done now! One of each!" like we went out and picked carrots and potatoes.
People say some strange things, but generally I think they are just trying to make conversation.
People say some strange things, but generally I think they are just trying to make conversation.
You have to know the teenage years will be a little easier...I work with at-risk teen girls in a children's home and let me tell you, they make the boys look a piece of cake.
Your boys are beautiful!!
Your boys are beautiful!!
People will say lame comments no matter what :( We have one of each, and everyone comments on how we now have the "perfect family". It would have been perfect with 2 boys or 2 girls too :(
I find the best response is a blank stare, makes 'em squirm!
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